Hey PatG,
Welcome to
the TMU Forum

! Thanks for your question.
I live in Montreal, QC, Canada and am looking to purchase a mattress with one of our local manufacturers. We are indeed very lucky to have so many around the vicinity. My husband and I have gone to visit many of them but are having a very hard time deciding which mattress is a good fit for us. As you can see, I can not ask one expert company in particular from this site. But, I hope someone can help and offer good advice.
Congrats on your new mattress shopping journey

! Hope you will find the resources here useful while researching your options. For a brief overview of using the site, I recommend you read several of Phoenix's guides, the
Mattress Shopping Tutorial
, for planning your shopping process;
The basic functions of a mattress-Overview
, explaining the mattress as a sleep system and most importantly
Five steps to your perfect mattress-Overview
, discussing the importance of site visits and "testing", a step you mentioned you and your husband are working on now.
I am a female 5'4" and 180 lbs with a BMI of 31. I sleep 60-70% of the time on my side and the rest on my back. I toss and turn throughout the night. I have a lot of pressure points and have a hard time getting comfortable. My husband is 5'7" and 220 lbs with a BMI of 35. He sleeps about 90% of his time on his back and sometimes on his side. He does not have any other issues and is not very picky. We currently have an all Talalay Latex mattress that I bought from Literie Provinciale about 9 years ago. It has 6" ILD 36 base and a 2" top layer of ILD 20. I do not like it and never really did for that matter. It feels firm to me when I lie down, I cannot get comfortable. Weirdly, it also seems as though my husband and I sink in a little in the middle of the mattress.
I am sorry to hear that your current mattress is causing you discomfort with your pressure points and support difficulty. For the specs you are describing of your Literie Provinciale mattress, a 3" 20 ILD may have been a better comfort layer over the 6" 36 ILD support layer, providing a more supportive "softer" feeling you describe in your preferences. In very general terms, curvier profiles need thicker comfort layers and heavier bodies need thicker and firmer comfort layers with support layers and materials that are also appropriate to the comfort layers and type of construction. Just curious as far as any other triggers in your sleeping environment: what type pillows are you using and what age are they?
Everywhere we have gone, they tell me that I need a foam mattress with memory foam at the top layer because of how sensitive my body is to the pressure points. I don't really like the feeling of foam. There is no bounce like in a spring/coil mattress, which I miss and like. I tried some hybrid mattresses and like the feeling of them. However, I am afraid that the pressure at which the coils press back against my body will end up hurting me after a few hours on the bed.
Memory foam's greatest advantage is generally considered to be its ability to distribute and relieve pressure. This does not mean however that it is dramatically better than other types of foam, such as latex, that in their softer versions are very close to memory foam in their ability to distribute pressure to levels below personal detection for most people. I'm including these links for understanding the differences in the uppermost/ "comfort layer" and underneath/ "support layer" of mattress construction by Phoenix,
Mattress comfort layers- Overview
and
Mattress support cores-Overview
. Here you will find details on how different materials function in their different layers within a mattress construction, other consumers following your research may find them useful as well.
My other issue is that I love the feeling of getting into a bed and feeling like I am sleeping on fluffy cotton...without the sinking in feeling like in a traditional memory foam.
Is it possible to find a mattress that will support 2 heavyset/overweight people and keep their spine in good alignment all the while having a really thick and soft top layer and quilt???
You may consider testing a latex hybrid mattress with a 3" latex topper when visiting one of your local manufacturer's showrooms to get an idea of what "feel" the added inch in the comfort layer would provide. Make sure you both have plenty of time to stretch out and "test" each mattress for at least 15 minutes or so. You mention earlier "they tell me that I need a foam mattress with memory foam at the top layer" because of your sensitivity to pressure points; have you liked any of the mattresses that you have tested and if so, which ones are they? Looking forward to hearing more of your research and hope all goes well.
Thanks,
Sensei